Uno, Dos, and Tres left nearly three weeks ago, four months after coming to our home. They went to a friend of their mom's. After about six months the family could potentially adopt them. Thankfully, the children knew this family and were looking forward to the toys they knew they had at their house. When the caseworker came to pick them up, though, Uno initially said he didn't want to leave.
The last four months were challenging to say the least. I hope we made a difference in their lives during that time. Although they came a long way while they were in our house they still had a lot of issues to work through by the time they left. I hope they find a good therapist for these kids and they go on to live stable, happy lives. Hopefully, much of their pain will be forgotten as they grow older.
I learned some things from having troubled kids in the house. Some of the most helpful things I've learned include:
- Sharing bedrooms is not always a good idea for children with abuse in their background, regardless of age or gender. (another reason we'll only take two kids from now on)
- We can't handle three kids with as much damage as these kids had at their ages. We already knew we shouldn't start out with three anyway, but that's another story.
- I must have a break to take care of myself or I won't be able to care for the kids.
- How to fix and care for African American hair : )
Josh and I took a two-week break from fostering. Now we are rested and ready for more kids!
Waiting for another phone call...
