The Grandparent Syndrome

Most children absolutely love going to Grandma’s house! And we know how much grandparents love their grandchildren. What is it about this relationship that makes it so special?

While there are probably a variety of reasons why the grandchild/grandparent relationship is so good, I am only going to point out a few. My purpose is to see what parents can learn from “the grandparent syndrome”.

I know all of these are not true of every grandparent, but these seem to be true of most. They could also be true of aunts, uncles, and other caregivers.

• Grandparents get a break. Because they are not with them every day they seem to have more energy and zeal to care for the children. I am not advocating that parents spend a lot of time away from their children, in fact, I am all for stay-at-home mothers and attentive fathers. The truth is, though, they need a break sometimes! Something should be said about whom parents leave their children with, but that is an entirely different subject for another time.
• Grandparents allow them to make mistakes. Grandparents seem to love their grandchildren unconditionally. While they might not let them get away with everything, they do extend some grace for making mistakes. You get the point. I didn’t say it was easy! I am just making observations.
• Grandparents try to win the child’s heart. Every grandparent wants to be loved by that little grandbaby. This is probably the most important thing parents can learn. “My son, give me thine heart, and let thine eyes observe my ways.” (Proverbs 23:26) Grandpa goes about trying to win that grandson’s heart by giving him undivided attention and really listening to him. He pulls him around in that wagon until they are both worn out. Grandma patiently teaches her granddaughter how to bake cookies, and they both love every minute of it! They are making time for the important people in their lives.